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Could this be why you're depressed or anxious ?

In a moving talk, journalist Johann Hari shares fresh insights on the causes of depression and anxiety from experts around the world -- as well as some exciting emerging solutions. "If you're depressed or anxious, you're not weak and you're not crazy -- you're a human being with unmet needs," Hari says.Johann's words :"For a really long time, I had two mysteries that were hanging over me. I didn't understand them and, to be honest, I was quite afraid to look into them. The first mystery was, I'm...

What really causes addiction ?

What really causes addiction -- to everything from cocaine to smart-phones? And how can we overcome it? Johann Hari has seen our current methods fail firsthand, as he has watched loved ones struggle to manage their addictions. He started to wonder why we treat addicts the way we do -- and if there might be a better way. As he shares in this deeply personal talk, his questions took him around the world, and unearthed some surprising and hopeful ways of thinking about an age-old problem.https://ww...

Is there something holding you back ?

When we choose something that is not best for us, there can be a deep seated part of us that does not want to heal a subconscious belief or program?In almost every case, we know what is best for us in our lives, from the relationships we create to the food we eat. Still, somewhat mysteriously, it is often difficult to make the right choices for ourselves. We find ourselves hanging out with someone who leaves us feeling drained or choosing to eat fast food over a salad. We go through phases where...

Negative self talk

Self TalkWe all have an inner dialogue with ourselves. Sometimes the things we say or think about ourselves can be very negative or critical and aren’t things we’d say to a friend or loved one. Practicing positive self-talk can help increase our self-confidence and curb the negative or harmful thought patterns that bring us down. It can be done by saying affirming things to yourself out loud, possibly in the mirror, or simply by rewording some of your thoughts so that they exhibit more ...

Low Self Esteem/ Self -Doubt

New research from the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, has found that body image is the leading source of self-esteem issues for women, with 61% citing it as a reason for low self-esteem.This research comes at the same time as Love Island showcasing similar body types, and past contestants talking of “punisher days,” making it especially necessary to speak out.The Research also showed:· Over half (54%) of women say their self-esteem impacts their day-to-day choices, su...

Self Sabotage ( Why do we do it ?)

Self Sabotage ( Why do we do it ) ?We are living longer but not necessarily healthier or without some ailment or disease stoping us living the life we want.Our future self needs your help because you are not only you in this moment, but also you tomorrow, in 2 weeks, 6 months, and 5 years.The quality of life you will have at each of these points depends on the actions you are taking in the present. You are like a community of selves across time, and the best way to hold this large community toge...

Communication is key, Find out how you love, how your partner loves and how you want to be loved ?

Communication is key, find out how you love, how your partner loves and how you want to be loved?There are only four love languages !Do you have demanding jobs, different schedules, and in the little time you spend together you prefer to rest?This whole rhythm of life can make monotony make its way into the life of the couple and end up affecting the sex life. Use all means of help to avoid getting as a person and as a partner in such a situation.Time for discussion can be found, regardless of t...

Limiting Beliefs - Whats holding you back ?

You know where to find me! Growth and self-actualisation — the continual search to find more of the life we want, and to embrace who we truly are — are only possible when one is willing and able to identify the things holding you back from reaching that next level.From committing to a no-alcohol-formula in order to stick to the plan for a New Year’s resolution regimen, to staying disciplined with a daily yoga practice, perhaps you have noticed the underlying assumption in many self-help fo...

Misogyny

Lately, I overheard two women talking while I was at the gym the other day.One was slightly older than me, the other was around 20 years old. The younger one seemed distraught about dating in general.At one point, she said, “I don’t know what happened. Your generation had men who didn’t see us as people but still tried to protect us. My generation has men who really, truly hate us.”This sentiment stuck with me that entire day. Looking back to what life was like in my 20s, I realised that...

Rapid Transformational Therapy® (RTT®)

RTT® works through the science of neuroplasticity and combines the most effective NLP principles with CBT, psychotherapy, and hypnotherapy to create a uniquely powerful therapy with the potential to help people overcome their issues.Marisa Peers is the founder and creator of RTT®—an expert therapist on many high-profile US and UK television networks, Marisa is also an acknowledged and inspirational speaker—from TEDx and Condé Nast to the Royal Society of MedicineShirley has attended in-de...

Many of us find it difficult to accept compliments but easy to believe the slightest criticism 

When we willingly accept compliments, we are reminded that others see us through different eyes. Today, right now, let’s make a choice to fully accept compliments as we would a gift. Sincere compliments are gifts of praise. They are kudos given for wise choices or accomplishments or perhaps for just letting your light shine. There is no reason not to accept the gift of a kind word, but some of us argue against them, even giving reasons why they aren’t true. If we visualize the ener...

Divorce and relationship breakup’s

Surround yourself with loving friends, look into your inner heart for guidance if your experiencing divorce or relationship break up. What you feel and go through is just a small period of your life …it is a temporary feeling …the good thing is we all have the choice to move forward, reflect and prepare for the new adventures & the next chapters of your life. Like the act of marriage that binds two people together, divorce is the result of a life-altering decision. It is the di...

Controlling behavior

Controlling Behavior People that want to control others are, at the core, consumed with their own fears and projecting those fears onto others We all know what it’s like to want to be in control. In some ways, exerting control is an important survival skill. For example, we have every right to be in control of our own bodies and our own lives. Taking control in these cases is empowering and necessary. Controlling behavior in the negative sense comes from a tendency to reach beyo...

We Can't Control What Others Think About Us 

The unfortunate truth... Isn't that why placing our worth and identity into others' opinions of us can be so crippling? When other people approve of you and your decisions? You feel great! When other people disapprove of you? You feel disappointed. When rain clouds come, we may feel down because a good day at the park might be ruined, but chances are we don't take it personally. The clouds come as they will, go as they please, and probably aren't around just because they...

Give Yourself Permission to Slow Down

We all have bad days and within these days is usually a gem of a gift waiting to be opened. We all have days from time to time when it feels like the world is against us or that the chaos we are experiencing will never end. One negative circumstance seems to lead to another. You may wonder, on a bad day, whether anything in your life will ever go right again. But a bad day, like any other day, can be a gift. Having a bad day can show you that it is time to slow down, change course, or ...

Learning to overcome our perception of lack into fullness. 

We are all familiar with the metaphorical story of two people looking at the same glass and one perceiving it as half-full while the other sees it as half-empty. As much as we’ve heard this, it’s still a valuable exercise to really observe our minds and notice whether we are engaged in half-full or half-empty thinking. People will refer to themselves as being of one type or the other as if it was a permanent characteristic, but we are all capable of shifting into a half-full consci...

Feeling Stuck

When we feel stuck, it can be helpful to let go of our resistance to the change trying to take place. When we feel stuck in our lives, it’s important to take stock of what is going on and find out if there is something we are doing or not doing that is keeping us stuck. Sometimes the situation is out of our control, and we need to look within to find the patience to wait until things move forward again. Many times, though, we can find the source of our stagnation in our own hear...

Blaming Others 

We cannot insist that someone else take responsibility for their actions; only they can make that choice when they are ready. As we begin to truly understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we may feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relationships, the same question arises. We all know that blaming others is the...

How Can I Tell if My Husband is a Narcissist?

One of my clients asked me if she was married to a narcissist ? This is a very interesting article which I have sent her to clarify a few things… If you are married to a narcissist then it will be very difficult to have a healthy relationship. They will probably have narcissistic traits, such as exaggerated self-importance, which can be very challenging to deal with. When you first met your husband he may have made you feel like the most wonderful person in the world, but now that the excessi...